Throughout the years 2009-2018 I felt pain every day. In 2016-2018 it was incomprehensible. There were days I thought I was going to lose my mind! I had to find solutions! I had to get proactive in my own healing and health!
I had to learn how to set boundaries and I had to find my voice! I had to learn how to advocate for myself and surround myself only with people that loved me and had my best interest in mind!
Part of what helped me get through those years was the process of researching, trial and error, being in the solution instead of always focusing on my suffering. Sometimes it was something that just took the edge off to get me through the day or even just the next hour. of these things were: EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the Biomat, acupuncture, Young Living oils for pain, learning how to make my own salve (CBD oil combined with YL oils) for pain, spirituality, food healing. I learned about what foods helped lower inflammation and what effects certain foods had on my body! AND Kundalini Yoga!
Most important: NEVER ABSOLUTELY NEVER GIVE UP!
Mindset!!! It is so easy when you are constantly in pain to have a chant of pain going over and over in your mind. When people ask how you are, you are constantly verbalizing how you are hurting or struggling. I found that this actually made living in pain worse and more intense. It reinforces your pain story. Now, that does not mean living in denial! It means pay attention to what you say and think! It means staying in the solution as much as you can. It means making extra effort to staying positive and thinking positive. It means taking action on the things you can control: your thoughts, getting sleep, eating healthy, educating yourself of all the alternative options that promote healing, being around positive people, finding balance in pushing yourself through and resting, making sure you are showing yourself kindness and compassion, helping someone (focusing on someone else’s pain and how you might be able to help).
Getting Past the Pain Part 1:
There are so many actions we can take. The first and foremost is, to make the decision. Because my story was Sickness, Pain and suffering it actually was hard to let go. This may sound crazy, and of course it is not conscious until you let it become so. One of the first things I had to do was courageously look at my part. I had to stop being the victim of my circumstances and look at where I did have power! This I began accomplishing through regular meditation and writing. The reason why this part is so important is because if we do not look at the part us that is holding on, the process of recovery begins to become a cycle of 3 steps ahead and then two steps back.
It took me years of this to figure out what part of me was holding on to the story of sickness. What I discovered was when I was a child this was the only time I received affection and felt safe. Does this mean I am to blame for all of my suffering? Of course not. But as soon as I took responsibility for the pieces I could change I shifted from victim to warrior!
It is impossible to move away from pain with a negative mind set!
I thought I’d start with this, because if you begin with this your efforts won’t be sabotaged.
DON”T QUIT BEFORE THE MIRACLE
Have you ever heard this saying?
This week this metaphor became an experienced truth. After my amputation I gained a lot of weight. Being heavy was a very uncomfortable feeling for me and made everything a lot harder. I made a decision to lose the weight, putting this as a high priority. For three months I began changing my habits and began exercising. I did not drop one pound! I was so frustrated. I had a lot working against me: medications I was on, not being able to exercise like I used to, and my age. My fist reaction was, ” I’ll never be abler to accomplish this, I have too much working against me…”.
I made a decision that this was too important to my quality of life. I felt better eating healthy and exercising anyway! I knew enough from my Ayurvedic background that sometimes things are manifesting even though we can not see them in the physical appearance yet. Today I have accomplished more than half of my desired weight loss. I share this because I think of the many time we shoot ourself in the foot because we quit right before the miracle. These laws work across the board. If you continue to do the work, keep you eye on the goal you will get there! And boy is it worth it!
This can be such a tricky thing. Especially because of the ego. The crazy part of it all is we are only empowered when we look at our part in what is in our present. All of what is in my present moment has been a creation of the choices I have made, no one else. And boy I sure have not done things perfectly! However, I grow and stop making the same mistakes over and over when I stop looking outside and begin looking inside. It’s been a blessing to learn how to own up to what I’ve done and do my best to make better choice; even when my part involved ugliness.
The important thing to remember is no one can attack me! And when I attack someone it has been because I feel i have been attacked and therefore I am attacking myself.
I do believe that most people do the best they can with what they know and have experienced. So, there is no pay off for holding onto anger or attacking thoughts towards another! The truth is when we do that we are only hurting ourselves and missing an opportunity for growth. A dear friend of mine passed on an awesome question for me to ask myself: Does this person or situation add grace to my life? And if not why am allowing this person or situation to continue being in my life? The next question I would add to that is: am I adding grace in this persons life or in this situation or am I causing harm. This takes a depth of honesty with ones self!
I have heard this saying for years and years. I always understood each word, but it was only through experience that I truly understood. My story has been one of many ups and downs, success here then failure, success then failure then success. When I look back now I can see how so many of the failures were because I quit too soon. Because, I use to want things to materialize faster. What I now know is that living slow and steady bears roots which in turn bears fruit! And that the journey is so important. Pay attention more to the journey than the destination. The problem with always focusing on the destination is that once your arrive there is a new one. The wins of substance, are internal experiences which build on each other creating a here and now of value and purpose.
Don’t quit before the miracle! Because the miracle will come!
I spent so many years talking mean to myself; thinking I was so different (thought different, suffered from unique fears and emotions). I was so hard on myself. A few years ago I got so sick and tired of being hard on myself and tired of carrying secrets. I made a commitment to be myself and speak my truth no matter where I was. Since then my whole world has changed! I now know how much we are all alike. So much wasted time and energy. Just yesterday a woman shared with me one of her deepest darkest secrets. It was exactly the same as one I carried around for years. What freedom that was. ! You are not alone! Trust me, if you have thought it or done it so has someone else! The sooner we realize these things the sooner we will find peace!
Be Kind To Yourself!