This can be such a tricky thing. Especially because of the ego. The crazy part of it all is we are only empowered when we look at our part in what is in our present. All of what is in my present moment has been a creation of the choices I have made, no one else. And boy I sure have not done things perfectly! However, I grow and stop making the same mistakes over and over when I stop looking outside and begin looking inside. It’s been a blessing to learn how to own up to what I’ve done and do my best to make better choice; even when my part involved ugliness.
The important thing to remember is no one can attack me! And when I attack someone it has been because I feel i have been attacked and therefore I am attacking myself.
I do believe that most people do the best they can with what they know and have experienced. So, there is no pay off for holding onto anger or attacking thoughts towards another! The truth is when we do that we are only hurting ourselves and missing an opportunity for growth. A dear friend of mine passed on an awesome question for me to ask myself: Does this person or situation add grace to my life? And if not why am allowing this person or situation to continue being in my life? The next question I would add to that is: am I adding grace in this persons life or in this situation or am I causing harm. This takes a depth of honesty with ones self!
I have heard this saying for years and years. I always understood each word, but it was only through experience that I truly understood. My story has been one of many ups and downs, success here then failure, success then failure then success. When I look back now I can see how so many of the failures were because I quit too soon. Because, I use to want things to materialize faster. What I now know is that living slow and steady bears roots which in turn bears fruit! And that the journey is so important. Pay attention more to the journey than the destination. The problem with always focusing on the destination is that once your arrive there is a new one. The wins of substance, are internal experiences which build on each other creating a here and now of value and purpose.
Don’t quit before the miracle! Because the miracle will come!
I spent so many years talking mean to myself; thinking I was so different (thought different, suffered from unique fears and emotions). I was so hard on myself. A few years ago I got so sick and tired of being hard on myself and tired of carrying secrets. I made a commitment to be myself and speak my truth no matter where I was. Since then my whole world has changed! I now know how much we are all alike. So much wasted time and energy. Just yesterday a woman shared with me one of her deepest darkest secrets. It was exactly the same as one I carried around for years. What freedom that was. ! You are not alone! Trust me, if you have thought it or done it so has someone else! The sooner we realize these things the sooner we will find peace!
Be Kind To Yourself!
Through mindfulness and meditation I get to look at my actions, thoughts, perspectives, and outcomes in a non-judgment manner. I have come to realize that through my life I am the one who has created my own limitations. After years of certain kinds of repetitive thoughts towards myself and the world I have manifested my present situation. I am the one who has the power to chose my thinking, and my beliefs. Years of certain beliefs have created things in my life that are not serving me or humanity. The good news is through this awareness I am now able to throw away whatever I chose and replace it with beliefs that I consciously have chosen.I am truly a co-creator of my outcomes.
So many limitations that were completely self imposed.There are so many possibilities ahead!
The other day someone was sharing with me the conflict that was occurring in her relationship. I have had many relationships that did not end well. Until I learned to look at my part and ask myself questions about my motives, I struggled with creating a healthy loving relationship. It is so important to know things about yourself and why you do certain things.This way when something comes up, first I can ask myself: ” How important is this?” Why is this important? and then “What is it I need” . These things might sound so simple on paper, but when a situation triggers charged emotions with someone that you love there are some deeper emotions that can be triggered that have nothing to do with the present situation. If I do not know myself, nor know what matters to me, these things come out in all sorts of dysfunctional manners. If I am in a relationship with someone I can be vulnerable with, communicating our fears and needs is a lot easier.
Today I had to bring my mind back under my control. For so many years I let my mind run wild, do what it wanted. It has taken years of practice learn how to reel my mind back in, and re-focus. I have experienced becoming what I think. Years ago I had no clue that I had a choice in the matter! Yes, sometimes it is hard work, but the payoff is magnificent. Mindfulness has helped me create a habit of watching my thinking without judgement. Then I empower myself by making a choice to change my thinking so it is aligned with love, compassion, and positivity!
In the last few years I have begun reaping the benefits of my hard work.
I read these words the other day by Dwayne W. Dyer: “Become more loving toward yourself. In your thoughts, cultivate an inner voice and attitude that is 100% on your team! Imagine an inner self that ONLY supports and loves you!”
Wow, what a great intention. These types of goals change how you interact with the world and produce results of peace and happiness!
I wish this to all who read this! BE KIND TO YOURSELF!
I have truly seen the wonderful effects of starting my day off with yoga and meditation. This morning I realized how much clearer my mind is and how much healthier the desires of my body and heart become.Positive behavior begets positive outcomes. That may seem simple and obvious but the depth of it runs so much deeper than what we see at a quick glance. Everything around me changes, even the foods I desire. I am more likely to see what I have instead of lack. I am more likely to desire being of service or even noticing an opportunity to serve. I am more likely to carve healthy foods than sweets or carbohydrates.Because of the many years I have practiced meditation, the quicker and deeper it puts my in the flow of love and success.